Feeling Disconnected?

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by Sherry Chamblee

Do you ever feel disconnected from those around you? Like you wish people would pay attention, notice you, show you some sort of support or at least act as if they care? Maybe you wish they’d acknowledge what you do, or who you are? Check up on you… treat you like you’re family? But you don’t want to say all that because then you come off as sort of whiny, and really, family should care about you no matter what, right? Why would I need to ask for that attention?  

So then you don’t? And then you just feel bad because it’s not there? 

You know what? God made us to want that connection. There’s nothing whiny about you needing it. That’s natural. You were designed that way.  

Recently I did some research on human emotions and how we interact with each other. Through this research, I really did a deep dive on how God has created us to have connection. It was simple, extremely simple, but profound when I thought about it for a bit.  

God created us to biologically need each other, and to biologically need Him as well. God tells us this in His Word, but we don’t think about it that way usually. We think about our need for God as being spiritual only, but it’s more than that. We need connection with God on a biological, neurological level, and when we deny that need, it creates biological problems.  

I believe this is a big problem in our society now – the denial of the need for God is so deep in our world now that we are seeing serious biological problems cropping up. We are falling apart as humanity because of our refusal to embrace that connection with God.  

This is a personal connection though, and so it starts with me and you.  

The explanation of what we truly need is simple, and the solution is simple. We need only accept Christ as our personal savior in order to begin that connection, but as we grow in Christ, that connection deepens.  

God literally created us to exist in a warm nest of social connectedness and acceptance. To go through life with emotional support, friendship, trust, and safety found in each other and in God Himself. God created us to accept and be accepted. He created us to provide love to others and to receive love from others. God created us this way.  

Imagine that in God’s perfect ideal, He holds us all in His hands and we’re together with this lovely connectedness and God is right there, in the midst of it all. That’s what God wants for me and you.  

So yeah, I’ve felt the way I described at the beginning of this article. I’ve felt that way many times. I’ve wanted that connection and not known how to express it without seeming to be needy or whiny. But you know, God knows that too. And He didn’t create us this way only to leave us bereft.  

Someday it’ll all be perfect if we are one of God’s children. Someday we’ll have that connection we’re longing for. We’re not in the original state God created us to be in – we’re a fallen race of beings. So that connection we were designed to have now has faults, cracks in it. Sometimes people around us aren’t perfect, and it’s okay to admit that oftentimes we’re not exactly perfect either.  But God is the Great Healer, and He’ll come in and fill all those cracks in if we just let Him.  

So let God do that. Let God be that balm you need, and that connection you’re longing for.  

Matthew 11:28-29 

Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 

Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 

About the Author:

Sherry Chamblee


Sherry grew up in various cities around northern and central California. This gave her all sorts of stories that sat and festered in her brain, waiting to be let loose. She eventually went to college in Wisconsin, where she met her equally frenetic husband, Rich. They have six (yes, count them) children, two dogs and a cat, and currently reside in a madhouse in the southern California area. As a family, they enjoy being active in their local church. Sherry spends her time writing when not caring for Granny, the kids, the dogs, the cat and any number of strays in the neighborhood.

Sherry Chamblee can be found at http://www.sherrychamblee.weebly.com Or check out her books at http://www.amazon.com/Sherry-Chamblee/e/B00BA06RJ2/

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